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The 5 Steps to Ace Your First Date

 

 
1. Low Pressure

Don't go to a fancy restaurant or to meet your parents. Start off slow and focus on just getting to know each other and giving her a sense of what it would be like to be with you. Meet up at Starbucks or for a drink. Maybe go to dinner at a small, casual place. Lower the pressure for her, and you.

 
2. Find the Connection

A lot of guys struggle with what to talk about and end up sitting in silence. Ironically, it's because the girl often doesn't know what to talk about either. Throw stuff at the wall and see what sticks. Feel out her interests and see if you share any. Don't pretend to like something you don't. Unless you really like her, then go for it. Who cares.

3. Pay or Split?

Most guys have been brought up to pay for everything. It's a bit more complicated than that and really depends on the girl. Just know that paying will absolutely score you points, always. But also keep in mind that if you pay the first time, you may be expected to pay always. Sometimes a girl will refuse to let you pay cause of some feministick up her bum or a girl may not feel comfortable with you paying for her. If you don't pay with a girl that expects you to pay, this could be a make or break situation. I say screw the girl that expects you to pay but always pay for the girl that offers to pay. You know, on principle. It's up to you and your wallet.

 
4. Meet Somewhere, Then go Somewhere Else Together.

Dinner, drinks, whatever. The getting to know you part of dating is lame. After you've met up and gotten to talking a bit, take her somewhere else. Even if it's just another bar or outside. It makes the evening more fun and creates a bond between you two because you're doing something together.

 
5. Be Forthcoming With What You Want

In the ye olde days when your grandpa was dating, you meet a girl, you go steady, you marry her, you have sex and make babies, and stay together forever. Not much room for variation. Today, many people have a different idea of the kind of relationship they're looking for. If you are not looking for a girlfriend, you should say that. If you are, you should ask her what she's looking for. Many people aren't looking for anything serious and will be upfront with that. You should be upfront with what you want as well.

 

Next week we'll tackle how to keep her interested after a few dates and, everyone's favorite topic – how to pull off the one night stand.