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How to Ask Out Any Girl in 5 Steps

The dreaded approach. The fear of rejection. Trying to ask out a girl is something most guys struggle with since before they can walk. Look at it this way. If you give into the fear and your irrational assumptions, you have already rejected yourself on her behalf.


Don't give them that kind of power. Rationalize the situation. You're a single person looking for a girl. She's likely a single gal looking for a guy. That's half the battle right there. The other half is just asking. And this half is much easier than most guys make it out to be. Just do it, and worst case scenario you end up in the same spot as you were in if you didn't ask her out. Here's how to do it.


1. Approach With Confidence

This is the biggest thing that stops guys from getting a number. No girl wants to date the shy, nervous guy who stutters through some hacky pickup line. They want the guy with the balls to not just go up to them but talk to them like they're a real person. Don't be afraid to just be you, odds are you're more impressive than most of the other guys that hit on her.

2. Be Honest

You can do one of your pick up artist routines you learned in your Mystery Method book or you can be genuine and honest. Don't pull out some pickup line or routine that your grandfather used at the town social. Tell her why you've just walked up to her. Tell her you're attracted to her. Tell her you're interested in getting to know her. Tell her you want to show them a good time.

3. Don't Trick Them

Ask a girl out on a date, don't make it some vague half-assed attempt to hang out and then make it feel like a date. Girls are less perceptive than we give them credit for and this is how guys get stuck in the dreaded “friend zone.” If you want to be more than a friend, you have to make that clear.

4. Be Upfront With What You Want

If you are looking for a relationship, don't act like you just want to have sex. If you just want sex, don't lead them on like you want to have a relationship. The amount of different male-female relationships that exist today leave too much to interpretation. Do you want to be boyfriend-girlfriend? Open relationship or closed? Fuck buddies? Married for residency papers?

5. Be Decisive

Pick the place, pick the time. Don't do the half-assed, “Uhh I don't know, what do you want to do?” Lead the way. Show her a good time. More importantly, confidence will get you farther than money or looks.