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5 Steps to Pull Off a One Night Stand

You're with a girl, you think she's hot, you want to close the deal. Tonight. Well, one night stands aren't just something you see on bad TV shows, they are happening right now as you read this. In fact, nearly 20% of women admit to having a one night stand and nearly 50% say they would be willing to. A one-in-five shot of landing one of these girls sounds like solid poker odds, let's see what we can do to up our chances even more.


1. Confidence
Don't be sheepish, don't be shy. If you want to close the deal, you need to be confident and show her that you are in charge. Lead the way. What are you going to do that night? What are you going to talk about? Where are you going after? Oh, your house for a nightcap? OK, sure.

The point is, if she is “controlling” the situation, she probably isn't going to have sex with you. If you are more in control, it's up to you to steer the ship wherever you want.

2. Read Her Signals

Sometimes it isn't meant to happen. Is she giving you signs or is she more closed off? Is she having a good time and getting more comfortable with you? Or is she looking at her phone to find any excuse to escape? Is she an easygoing person or a prudish abstinence-club chick? The quicker you figure out if she is DTF, the quicker you can move on to the next steps.

3. Body Contact

There is a long way to go from stranger to sex but once you have broken down the body contact barrier with something as simple as putting your hand on hers, playfully goofing around, or a hug you are much closer than you think. Break down the body contact barrier a little at a time. Move from touching her hand to her arm to hair, cheek, whatever. Start out playful and end up as intimate. Obviously, don't touch her if she's uncomfortable with it. She doesn't know you well enough to know you yet or is working out some gym teacher-related childhood issues. Again, don't come on too strong and watch the signals.

4. Bond

Create trust and bond with her as quickly as possible. Do something together. Connect over something personal. Show her that you are to be trusted. Go somewhere together, then go somewhere else. It's like multiple dates in one night.

5. Break Down Her Defenses

Creating comfort on a first date is tough. Girls are often defensive over a variety of things so you need to break down her defenses so you both can relax. Humor, shared experiences or interests, and a laid back atmosphere are the best ways to do it.


Now go get 'em.